I am new here. I really don't have the credentials to be speaking out about all these matters -- no, I really don't have the credentials at all. I am outspoken by nature, though. And opinionated.
Yesterday I sent OP a private e-mail, trying to be constructive on the one hand, and really letting him have it at the same time, hoping to maybe keep him from tipping all the way over and giving up, because I feel bad that his considerable achievement should go through this mangling process that has been happening of late.
I sort of laid my opinions on the line in no uncertain terms -- and, again, I have basically zero credentials -- and many an admin would have been provoked to anger by that. This was not the case.
Op replies to me within a day with a short, very restrained message. I was impressed with that.
As for the aforementioned mangling process, from where I stand there is plenty of blame to go around.
In my short stay here, I have only barely begun to develop an opinion of OP. What I notice so far from reading through this forum: he can sometimes be a bit taciturn, his sense of diplomacy runs the gamut from great to nonexistent, and I absolutely cannot abide the "call me God" phrase in his profile. (I know it's tongue-in-cheek, but maybe you should get rid of that, OP, before God tires of it. Seriously.)
So maybe OP is a bit of a prima donna and doesn't suffer fools lightly. In a way I cannot blame him. I tend to be the same way, myself -- in fact I am probably a lot worse (it takes one to know one, as they say). But it seems there are a lot of people here who claimed loyalty, and some displayed sycophantic behavior, when it was "fashionable" to be on Op's side. Then, as soon as adversity occurred here, those are some of the same ones that piled on and heaped coals on his head.
Ruivo, you have a lot to clear up. I hope you stay, my first (admittedly limited) impression of you was really very favorable, but I would not blame OP for banning you or even your clan. Your behavior recently has been cozening, duplicitous, deceitful. You have posts here and on NQ, not more than a day apart, that are so contradictory it is almost laughable. You have aggressively signed many new members to your clan just recently. Having done so, it's not nice to move on now that things seem a little less shiny. It's not even nice to threaten to move on, right now when things are unstable. Plus, there's a saying: "the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence." I think someone referred to it above, in so many words.
Ruivo, if OP allows it, I hope you stay and contribute to clearing things up. Bigtime. Because, honestly, you seem like a nice enough guy. Your clan concept is a good one. Your sin is in trying to play both ends against the middle. I think many of us have done that at least once in our life. You will live and you will learn, hopefully. If OP lets you stay, I don't think you need to fear retribution or banishment server-side; the nucleus of this group just doesn't seem like the type. (I mean, any group that could put up with those GAYS as long as you guys did...well, shucks and damn...that has to take tolerance and patience. )
And, Ruivo, you are by no means the only one on this server who has displayed, shall we say, wishy-washy behavior. In fact, I think there was some extreme wishy-washiness that led to your initial unease, and to your getting caught up with the idea of leaving. Panicky or capricious behavior is contagious; this is not an uncommon phenomenon. It's easy to contribute to it and more difficult to remain above it.
As for me, as I said, I am new, and have no real vested interest in this mod. I may or may not continue to hang out here. (Some of you may know my feelings in the wake of the Nephele sale -- but also know that I posted my complaints about that before I fully understood the turmoil that was happening due to broader issues, and before I read the latest threads in this sub-forum.)
I have met a few decent, interesting folks server-side but nothing has really cemented there. I have no clan, and have but a few people I interact with regularly or semi-regularly. But I have been following this forum pretty closely the last couple days (good as a soap opera, it is), and maybe the opinion of a youngblood member, with no ties to this-or-that group, will help nudge things in the right direction.
This mod deserves better than it has been getting.
I think that's one of the bees in OP's bonnet: his reactiveness reminds me of that character on Seinfeld, the soup guy: he demanded perfection from his soup; how could he expect anything less from his customers? You dig it?
I hope you can all forgive me for speaking up -- again, I really don't have the credentials. It's a flaw of mine, my big mouth is. But I played here for a few weeks and really grew to appreciate this mod. I wish all the best.